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Commensalism: Towards Difference, Beyond Mutualism in Relationships

the egret resting gently upon the cow’s shoulders, taking note of everything they stir up while grazing.  here, she finds not only companionship, but a high perch where she feels safe and can more readily scout out her next meal.

a beetle who makes home in the fur of a sloth, eager to eat the algae that grows on this slow-moving tree lover - moths and others may also gather here, thankful for the tiny, sheltered green they find woven into the sloth’s coat ..

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Love in the Stars: the Astrology of Matchmaking (How to Find the Love You're Seeking)

with valentines coming around, this time of year gets everyone thinking on love – how to find it, how to keep it, or perhaps how much ice cream and movie binging we’ll need to get through the day.  so, I thought I would share a longer article on astrology and how it can bring more love into your life, any day of the year; whether you’re working on your self-love game or focused on deeper connections with partners and other loved ones, astrology has so much to teach about relationships!

in the rest of this article, I’ll share what each of the signs struggles with in love, what they most bring to the relationship, what excites them, and – most importantly – what they’re desiring more deeply ..

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No More Boundaries: Vulnerability as Radical, Political Healing

your boundaries are a problem.

yes, those boundaries – the ones your therapist said were important to have.  the ones you saw in that meme reminding you of self-care.  the ones you spent years making, probably first without knowing and which you later made intentionally.  ones you are still trying to define.

see, the thing is, we don’t struggle with recognising how boundaries are a problem ..

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Many Loves: Yes, Polyamory is for Everyone

it only takes a few hours, or sometimes, a few days, if we are really connecting. no matter how great things are going, at some point, the moment does come:

“oh, I’m not poly.”

maybe they finally read my profile, or we start talking about relationships and I’ve mentioned that I am invested in loving many people, in many ways.

no matter how it comes up, in that moment, I can feel that the relationship changes immediately – where things felt open and light before, they now feel closed and defensive. it becomes a trial, as if I have done something criminal. laughter disappears and is replaced by a tangible expectation that I have some explaining (apologising?) to do, if the relationship’s going to move forward from this point ..

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Anger, and Why We Need to Embrace It

these past several weeks, I have felt more anger than ever before in my life.

why? what changed?

 well, actually, nothing; nothing seems to have changed, and that’s exactly why I’ve been so angry. most everything I do in my life is centered around finding my own liberation and seeking liberation for + with others, as well.  I am constantly fighting.  constantly shouting into a noisy world.  often demanding, sometimes begging, for things to change ..

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Listening: Learning to Love Others Where They Are

I’ve always thought of myself as someone who listens – a “good listener”.

That when someone comes to me, I am able to really hold space to receive what they’re hoping to share with me in that moment.I set aside my own needs and just listen.Not just waiting for my turn to share, not hoping for them to finish quickly, but really being with them in a moment of vulnerability and trying to hear “what is this person trying to share with me right now?” ..

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Self-Care Kit: 4 Tools to Practice Care when Feeling Overwhelmed

It seems like everyone talks about self-care, but what does that actually look like, especially when we are already feeling overwhelmed?  How do we actually know when we’re doing self-care and when we’re not?  In moments when we are feeling especially down or panicked or challenged, it can be even more difficult to know how to put the pieces together.

So, here I am, making this list just for you.  A collection of tools you can use to get from that difficult place to wherever you want to go- a gift to your higher, deeper, and more whole self.  I’m writing this because I want that for you, too, and I’m determined to help you get there.  <3 

Let’s get started, then? ..

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Practicing Accountability: How We Love Vulnerably + Keep Growing Together

With all of the experiences I have witnessed in the world lately – both in my personal life and in our greater societies and communities as a whole – it seems to me that accountability is what we are needing most and simultaneously, the thing we are most afraid of. One of the things I see most in the work I do is how very much people are wanting to let their truths free, and what a painful process it is for them to try to hold it in.

Someone moving from laughter into uncontrollable tears during our first tarot reading together, when they were first convinced ..

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